Individual counselling can help to heal problematic behavioural and emotional patterns that get in the way of sustaining healthy relationships. For example, abandonment fears, which tend to drive clinging and anxious behaviours in relationships, or fears of closeness, which often drive relationship avoidance or distancing behaviours within relationships.

According to attachment theory (a well-researched area in psychology), we each have a specific pattern of behaviour in relationships that was formed through our childhood relationships with our primary caregivers. This pattern of behaviour is our ‘attachment style’. While each attachment style has its strengths, some aspects of our attachment style may also prevent us from forming stable and healthy relationships with others. Individual counselling can modify these aspects of our attachment style. This removes relationship blocks and builds the skills needed to have satisfying relationships.